One of the most difficult things in parenthood is finding the time to balance every aspect in our life. Setting aside time to maintain our creativity is one of those challenges. Sometimes, we might be guilty in doing so because perhaps spending time with our kids seems more important than focusing on our personal creative projects. But you need some of your own space and time, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Here is some advice you can consider when you need to balance your life to keep your creative side awake:
Set Aside 15 Minutes Of Time And Space Daily
Think of this as your “me time” on a daily basis. Just set aside 10 to 15 minutes. Do whatever you think works for you. You can close your eyes, let your thoughts and voices wander. This can be your meditation process. While doing so, keep a notebook, or journal next to you so you can write down important things that may cross your mind. Even if this is like “get milk”, “get blank canvas,” or whatever, just write it down. This will also help clear your mind by giving it space to breathe and just be. I also call this as a form of “uncluttering your mind.” It’s similar to gardening: you need to keep it fresh with water and pluck out the bad weeds to make your garden healthy and beautiful.
Set Aside Longer Time And Space On The Weekend
Weekends can get tricky because these are the best times to spend with your partner and kids so it is easier to feel obligated to spend as much time as you can with them. However, it is equally important to set aside time for just yourself but in this case, it should be longer than the above because this is when you set aside time and space for long-term goals. It’s a period where you will need to reflect on your plans, what type of projects or goals you’d like to tackle in the next 3 months.
Think of this as your “feeding the soul” time. It can be early in the morning with your coffee and a laptop so you can jot down ideas, or it can be going out to your favorite coffee shop nearby and create a mind map of your future projects. If morning doesn’t work with your family, then perhaps a couple of hours before you go to bed, when the whole house has gone quiet.
Create Whenever Possible
A more daring approach would be to just start something. Avoid being a perfectionist all the time. I know some people who would refuse to even start anything because they know that they can’t focus or finish it in the deadline that they set for themselves. If you are a writer, write whenever you can. If you are a painter, paint whatever or whenever you can. It does not have to be a piece that you focus on endlessly because it’s going to be one of your masterpieces. The long intervals can actually help you in ensuring your finished work is top-notch, instead of a rushed project. If you are an artist or a creator, then do just that: continue to create.
Without a doubt, being a mom is one of the most wonderful things that we can achieve in life. On the other hand, I strongly believe that it is possible for us to live a balanced but yet full life. The number of hours in a day stays fixed and it remains so no matter your familial status. If you are disciplined and set aside these times as your “must-have,” then you can consistently keep that creativity spark.