It’s fascinating to observe trends. Trends happen in almost all aspects of life and you have to wonder why trends happen and how they catch on. (I know – there’s lots of research on how things work but I’m just musing here). One of them is the boymom/girlmom trend. Everywhere you look nowadays, it seems that moms are classifying themselves as either a boymom or a girlmom. What does that mean? And, curiously, there seem to be more #boymoms. Are there more boys born on average than girls? Or, are boymoms more frequent social media posters?
In less progressive times, a child’s gender defined roles and life opportunities right from birth, as well as how the child was socialized and raised. That included “gender appropriate” clothing, toys, sports and activities, even colors. While that still holds true in many parts of society, there is a lot more “coloring outside the lines” and that’s a wonderful thing.
Nature vs. nurture?
Is it true that boys are more aggressive or are more likely to gravitate to traditional boy things like cars, trucks, and trains? Well, to some extent – yeah. SimplyPsychology.org explains the old theory (and debate) of “nature vs. nurture” https://www.simplypsychology.org/naturevsnurture.html. This may answer a few questions for anyone wondering why their dainty daughter enjoys roughhousing with the boys. Or, why their rough and tumble son has a curious interest in fashion.
boymoms girlmoms trend
So, why the current meme of #boymom? And, yes, according to one blog, there is something like 3 times as many boymom posts as girlmom posts. I read a variety of blogs, posts and tweets about the subject and came away with a wide variety of opinions about the trend. To my surprise, some comments were critical of moms who felt the need to identify in this way. One mom asked in confusion what hashtag she was supposed to use because she has both boys and girls.
Some questioned why boymoms feel the need to self-identify. There were comments that questioned (even accused) boymoms of stereotyping their boys or appearing to apologize/not apologize for “boys being boys”. Some felt that putting so much emphasis somehow diminished girls.
Fascinatingly, there’s a related trend that promotes the idea of gender neutrality in child-rearing. Supporters refuse to pre-identify their children’s gender for them. They prefer that children “choose” the gender that they identify with. As with #boymom, there are strong feelings on both sides about this trend as well.
As with many other things in life, it’s all about personal preference and what works with your children and your family. The great news is this. We live in a society that generally allows us to raise our children with freedoms and options they may not have experienced in the not-so-distant past.
So, whether you’re a boymom, girlmom, bothmom (?), or theybabymom (?), enjoy those littles and support and guide them on whatever path they walk. They’ll love you all the more for it.
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