To co-sleep or not to co-sleep that is the question. And entirely up to you and your family on whether it works for you. We are not a full on “family bed” house, but I do let my littles crawl into ours whenever they need to. And some nights I am too tired for bedtime routines and just let everyone sleep in our bed. Including the dogs.
Sharing Your Bed
When both of my kiddos were newborns, I loved letting them sleep on my chest or their boppy in between me and my husband. However, this is not an ideal sleeping arrangement, and now they make co-sleepers that go in the bed with you to prevent you from squashing your precious baby. We did have a bassinet that was on my side of the bed until the babies were too big. Then they migrated to their beds which in our house meant they moved upstairs. For the most part, this was a smooth transition.
Every night I tuck my kids into bed and lay with them until they fall asleep or some nights we both fall asleep. And this has been our routine their whole lives. Once my son hit toddler age, he would have nightmares here and there, and we would, of course, let him sleep with us on nights he was having troubles. However, this did not prepare us for what we would face my daughter. She not only had nightmares but night terrors as well. And those my friends are just awful. You are utterly helpless because the more you try to do, the worse it gets. All you can do is let them ride it out. For the most part, she has outgrown them, but there are nights that she still has bad dreams and will get in bed with us.
Dealing With Sickies
When my daughter was around eighteen months old, she started having febrile seizures. These are seizures that are caused by a drastic change in a little one’s temperature, and while they are common, they are still terrifying. She seems to have outgrown them but in between then and now she had eight that we know of. So every time she was sick, I would have her sleep in bed with us. Or we would sleep on the couch so I could monitor her. It was just easier that way.
In the End
Like everything else, there are both advantages and disadvantages to co-sleeping. For example, if you are breastfeeding it makes it a lot easier on everyone to get a good nights rest. The downside is as your kiddos get older, you may lose that intimacy with your husband. For me, I think it’s important that my kids understand that everyone has their own space. But if they need to, they can absolutely crawl into bed with me. I feel like it gives them that feeling of security that we are there for them. I consider us hybrid co-sleepers, and while not everyone may enjoy getting kicked in the face by their kids, I know they won’t always be this way and will take all the extra time I can.