It seems to be the struggle is all too real when comes to moms taking full advantage of those elusive moments alone. I know I struggle with me time. I want it, crave it even, but then when they arrive, that a-hole guilt shows up to party.
But You Are Alone All Day, Why Do You Need Me Time
Recently, I took the plunge from working a regular 9-5 job to working from home. This means I am my own boss and finding the benjamins falls solely on me. Which is what I have always wanted, but a few weeks ago when I found myself at home alone on Saturday night, I felt terrible for loving the much-needed break.
Let’s start with just because I am alone working. It doesn’t mean that it is my time. After I drop the kids at school, I pick up the house and whatever other distractions there and I then I start my day. I am a multi-passionate entrepreneur. I’m a writer, photographer, help my husband with his business and do some contract work. My day is rarely the same. And it can become super stressful sometimes juggling all that comes with running your own businesses. But that is a topic for another day.
Saturday Night Vibes
A few weekends ago my son and my husband went to our weekend getaway, and my daughter decided to go to my mother-in-law. Which left little ol’ me alone on the couch. For a brief moment, I thought about joining my best friend and her husband out. But the idea of getting ready sounded absolutely horrible. So I opted to stay in. Earlier in the day, I had a couple of photography sessions, so my inner introvert really wanted to be lulled by lousy TV. Even though I had a lovely to do list in my head of all the things I was going to do with an empty else, I accomplished nothing. Well, I did manage to find some crab cakes and smoked gouda mac and cheese in the freezer, so that was a definite bonus. And although I knew I needed the time to unwind, my inner mean girl was squawking in my head the whole time. “You should be doing this; you should be doing that, you are so lazy, blah blah.” Finally, I had enough and decided to enjoy this unicorn moment.
Then when I found the Sex and the City movie on Netflix, I knew it was meant to be.
Enjoy It While You Can
I’m not sure why I feel guilty when I do anything that is just for me. Because as the one who carries the weight of the house on my shoulders, I know how necessary it is to do to things for me. Even if it is as trivial as watching a movie I’ve seen a million times. So I am trying to be better about it. During my work day, I take breaks to walk the block or get on our cardio machine. Or stretch or zone out because come 2:55, it’s back to “mom! MOM! I need this or can you do that.” Which I wouldn’t trade for anything because I love being a mom. But maybe I would take just a little more time just to do me things. So whatever it is that you like to do, get your nails done, yoga, painting or even nothing at all. Find the time to do it; you deserve it.